Wednesday, July 29, 2009

The Border Line between "Friends" and "Not Friends"

Usually, there's really no rules about that. But sometimes, I have to ask myself, "Is she really my friend?"

I am the person who would call many ppl as "my friends". I mean, isn't it great to have a lot of friends? But what is the "friend" really, anyway? Does it have to be some ways?

I had this one friend. One day we, just me n her, were talking about the one girl, I mean she's my friend as well. Anyway, I said "I like her, I think she's really nice. I am glad to have her as my friend." Then the comment my friend gave me was "well, only if she thinks that you are her friend as well." I mean, she didn't even know about anything about me n her, then she just said thing like that. Of course that comment of her disgust me. I didn't wanna even talk to her after that.

Obviously I questioned to myself about what she said to me. Not about if the girl who I called "my friend" really thinks that I am her friend, but about if it really has to be under some kinda agreement to call each other "friends"?

We sometimes get upset to our friends too. But it doesn't mean, they are no more our friends. When they become a "not friend", there must be a good reason to it.

I don't talk to her everyday... is she my "not friend"?
I don't know everything about her... is she my "not friend"?
I don't go out with her very often... is she my "not friend"?
I haven't even called her for a while... is she my "not friend"?
I saw her today, n said hi. But we didn't really have time to stop n talk... is she my "not friend"?
I never actually met her in person... is she my "not friend"?

The answer is NO, THEY ARE MY "FRIENDS". I would proudly call them as my friends. After all, that's what all matters.

So who is really my "not friend"?

I thought she was my friend, but I don't get any respects from her.
I thought she was my friend, but she obviously doesn't care how I feel.
I thought she was my friend, but she said mean things to me a lot.
I thought she was my friend, but I am not comfortable with her anymore!

Yes, that's the thing. How I feel about this person! When I realized these things, I just stopped caring about her. N that was it. There I put the border line. N you know what? That was actually the girl who gave me the comment.(Well there were more issues between me n her...) The girl we were talking about is still my friend, but the girl who I was talking to is not my friend anymore!

I am a human. So I am not perfect. So I have feelings n dislikes sometimes. I don't even seek "perfect" from my friends. They are my friends, that's good enough. My friends I have today, they are all my friends. And I am pretty sure I will meet more.

I may not be actually there all the time for them.
I may not even talk to them often anymore.
I may have not met them in person yet.
There may be still a lot of things I don't know about them.

But still, they are my friends. New friends, old friends, best friends, just friends... No matter what some ppl say, they are my friends.

So... if you are reading this... you are my friend with no question.:):):) N, again... thank you for being my friend.

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  1. Hey - stopped by from MBC's under 100 group! I like your blog background - really sharp! - friends are funny aren't they? Some people are fickle and then my one friend says that her friends are family and they are friends for life - she'll work anything out for a friend. kinda cool.

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